Black Friday – Go or Stay Home?

We all like to save money- it seems to be how Americans do things; this year is especially challenging with COVID-19. Black Friday has always been the hallmark of savings, where each store has their fantastic deals with only a certain number of them. In 2020 the big obstacle is safety, so many stores have turned to virtual, online events.  However, some ardent shoppers want to pursue store deals, even in the face of the coronavirus pandemic. Why Black Friday is Intense According to the International Business Times (IBT), there are three reasons that Black Friday is so intense: There is a rush of dopamine into the brain when we find deals. It is anatomically pleasing for us to find the right product at the right price – especially when there is a limited supply. Crowds get us excited because, from an evolutionary perspective, crowds = danger. Additionally, people copy one another’s behavior, which is why a few people can turn a happy group into an angry mob. When people are in a crowd,  they get a narrow worldview focus. Generally, people have an overview of the world and are aware of most of their surroundings, but they hone...

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Domestic Violence and Financial Stress

Is There a Link Between Domestic Violence and Financial Stress? [Updated]

Can Financial Stress Lead to Domestic Violence? As the COVID-19 pandemic continues, families are seeing their financial situation worsening. Unemployment rates are high, evictions are occurring, and businesses are permanently closing. At the same time, domestic violence (DV) agencies were reporting an increase in calls from women in need. The Facts This increase, unfortunately, should not have been a surprise. According to the National Network to End Domestic Violence, domestic violence is actually three times more likely to occur when a couple is experiencing high financial stresses versus low financial stresses. Women whose male partners experienced two or more periods of unemployment in a five-year time span are almost three times as likely to be victims of DV as opposed to women whose partners are in stable jobs. We also saw a substantial increase during the Shelter at Home time period. Stress Causes Violence When people are experiencing stress, they have a more difficult time controlling their anger. Anxiety activates the fight or flight response, and while it doesn’t necessarily cause “fighting,” it can cause other types of violence and aggression. When someone is experiencing anxiety or stress in the workplace or other parts of their life, their anger...

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road rage, Timothy Dimoff, Life Rage

Road Rage: 5 Tried and Tested Ways to Avoid It [Updated]

In Florida, two men exchanged words in at an intersection, pull into a nearby parking lot, get out of their cars, and start beating on each other. One man has a knife. He stabs the other man in the face several times, and the knife victim is rushed to the hospital. In Wisconsin, a woman is teaching her teenage son to drive. They have a minor car crash. The driver of the other vehicle shoots her to death. In Georgia, a man runs over another person he thought was throwing golf balls at his car. Unfortunately, incidents like this are reported to law enforcement every day. How can these incidents be avoided? Where did these cases go seriously wrong? Statistics are Alarming According to the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety, 80% of polled drivers express severe aggression, anger, or road rage at least once a year. Per NHTSA, 66% of traffic fatalities are caused by aggressive driving. 37% of aggressive driving incidents involve firearms, according to AutoVantage. 5 Tips to Avoid Road Rage In my book Life Rage, I have several suggestions when dealing with the other guy, listed on Page 117-118. Here is a synopsis: Never pull over...

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Tomorrow is National Human Trafficking Awareness Day – Do you Know the Signs?

Every January 11th, we are tasked to learn more about human trafficking. Please take everything you think you know about it and throw it in the preverbal trash can. Human trafficking doesn’t happen exclusively in big cities, near international borders, or in poverty-stricken neighborhoods. It happens everywhere. Ohio has the fourth largest incidents of trafficking behind Florida, California, and Texas. In 2019, Ohio received a “C” grade by Shared Hope International regarding our state’s sex trafficking laws and prevention tactics. We are the only state that requires 16- or 17-year-olds to prove they were sex trafficking victims. However, the State Senate recently passed a bill that would rescind that clause. It’s awaiting passage in the House of Representatives. In Ohio: 80% are children who live in urban settings 67% are white, female teens 33% are African American Girls are dressed in inappropriate clothing and wear heavy makeup The average buyer is 40 years old According to the International Labour Organization, on a global level: 81% are doing forced labor (slavery) 75% are women and girls 25% are children   How to Spot Human Trafficking   Look for a significant age difference. If you see someone much younger, don’t assume...

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Aggressive Behavior, High Profile Events, Timothy Dimoff

Defuse Aggressive Behavior at High-Profile Events

High-profile events call for special security techniques instituted by trained personnel who know how to de-escalate aggressive behaviors. Security personnel often come from law enforcement backgrounds with specialized training in awareness and presence techniques. These same techniques can help you to identify and properly respond to aggressive behaviors if necessary. Three Steps to De-Escalation The three most important steps for effective de-escalation during an event are to detect, defuse and respond. While all large events require good security measures, high-profile events present a special challenge because they usually involve extremely large number of attendees, bringing greater potential for dangerous situations to occur.  Recent news stories have demonstrated that the first responders are often not law enforcement, but the workers or attendees. Therefore, in addition to having a contingency and organizational plan, it is important that all personnel involved with a high-profile event are properly trained in response techniques in order to maintain safety at the event. The biggest risk is in thinking “It can’t possibly happen here!” Detect Learning how to detect aggressive behavior is the first step. It can help to prevent personal injury and may mean the difference between life and death. Knowing how to properly detect...

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